Amy and Randall Spalding-Fecher on Willing to Love: Nurturing the Soul of the Relationship

Our chapter explores what it means to see our relationship as a “crucible of spiritual transformation.” We posit that there is a higher Self, or soul, to relationships, and view this as what invites us and guides us on our journey together. 

While an intimate relationship is a powerful invitation to spiritual growth, we invite you to bring any meaningful relationship to explore the following questions:

1. What is the essence of the relationship? What aliveness or invitation initially brought you together? Where is your relationship most alive now?

2. What is an Ideal Model of the potential of this relationship?

3. Where do I need to grow and do my own work so I can show up in a healthy and self-identified way?

4. How can I nourish the soul, the container, that holds the relationship?

We will explore these questions in stages, while reading a few excerpts from our chapter that point to our experience. As Amy authored the chapter, Randall will fill in his experience in each of these areas. 

You will have a chance to explore your curiosity through meditative reflections, writing and dyads. We welcome reflections on how you nourish the soul of your relationships. There is no end goal here -our desire is to bring some fresh air to the potential for growth and transformation in meaningful relationships.

Amy and Randall have been together for over 30 years. They have traveled the world and continue to enjoy different landscapes, cultures, activities, and meditations. Their partnership is a continual experience-in-progress, one that fundamentally changed once they trusted and embraced the larger container that held them.

Amy is a Psychosynthesis coach and trainer, and Randall’s work helps to bring financing to low-income countries for climate change mitigation.